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Self-worth and identity
When nothing you achieve seems to land.
Therapy for self-worth and identity, in Bristol and online. Often for people whose lives look entirely fine from outside.
First call
Free · 15 minutes
Sessions
50 minutes, weekly
Fee
£85
Format
In person or online
01 — What this can look like
Not a diagnosis
Most people recognise three or four of these.
Low self-worth is rarely about confidence. It is usually a standard you would never apply to anybody else.
Praise slides off and criticism sticks.
You describe your achievements as luck.
You are whoever the room needs you to be.
You are waiting to be found out.
You know what you should want, not what you do.
Being liked matters more than being known.
You would not speak to anyone else this way.
03 — How we work with it
Three ways in, depending on whose voice it is.
You don’t need to know which one you want. Working that out is part of the first conversation.
Compassion-Focused
When the voice is relentless
We work on the tone before the content, because you can rarely argue your way out of something that was never really an argument.
Schema-Informed
When it started early
We find where the standard came from and who set it — almost never you — and what continuing to keep it currently costs.
Acceptance and Commitment
When you have lost your own shape
For people who know exactly what they should want. We work out what you actually value, and let that make the decisions for a while.
04 — How I work
Four principles
The first session is mostly listening.
Nothing is decided in advance, and you can stop after any point. This is the shape it usually takes.
01
The free call
Fifteen minutes to say what is happening in your own words. No notes are taken and nothing follows unless you want it to.
Phone or video
02
Session one
We look at where the standard shows up, and who else in your life you would ever hold to it.
50 minutes
03
Weeks two to six
We start with how you talk to yourself in one specific situation. Noticing it is most of the early work.
Usually weekly
04
Reviewing it
Around session six we look honestly at whether this is helping, and decide together what happens next.
Openly, not by default
First call
Free · 15 minutes
Session
50 minutes
Fee
£85
05 — Questions about anxiety
Before the first call
Things people ask me about anxiety
If yours isn’t here, just ask me on the call.
06 — Related reading
From the journal
